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" Supatree79, 22/07/2016
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To be honest...
I never pretend to be better than anyone, the opposite is true
I never use people to my advantage, I apologise if ive done it.
I never act to be loved in return, nontheless
you know the saying : never say never
What’s more common is stuggling with the dark thoughts
But hey it doesn’t have to be the new normal.
Deciding to take on board, ONLY the positive,
instead of fighting, twisting or rethinking the thoughts alone,
I’ve decide to EXPOSE and CONFRONT them. Tah dah!
Non non non… don’t be afraid, it’s not a witch craft game.
it’s just about answering ONE simple question.
who leads your thoughts and actions in your life?
If like me you spontaniously reply ME ME ME
yes i’m the boss in my life. i knew it. lol.
just look at me, i’m normal and powerful, positive and determinate
superman...wonderwoman...fantastic four, yes all in one!
But wait a minute, what about you stop lying to yourself.
You didn’t decide to come on earth to do your things and go. do you?
So what is it that you are doing here?
ho, just deciding this and that, who and where, when and how. ha ok. pardon me.
happy now? if you are happy it’s fine.
or maybe are you trying to convince me of something...like it’s not the real truth
yep! and what about these people around...who are telling you what to do, what to think, or not.
on the surface maybe nobody but subconsciously ...hummmm...there are a million people in your head...minimum.
non? and what about your conscious.
yes. can you tell me how you deal with it please?
is it a constant fight, like speaking to a wall, or having ALOT of negotiations everyday?
A permanent meeting and you wonder whose gone be fired. maybe you?!
just to remind you here that what ever your thoughts are, your past or your situation,
you have to be in control of your future.
if tomorrow is your last day, you don’t want to stay stuck all the day fighting with your thoughts.
so...let’s do this simple clarifying mechanism, in five minutes tops.
Take some paper, draw two colomns, write in the first colomn all your thoughts down as they come, and in the second your answer or action to your thoughts. Don’t forget to mark yourself!!
Sounds good! yes. cool!
Now you can play, the ‘I decide game’, or ‘thoughts management game’.
(don’t google it, i’ve just invented it. lol)
It’s perfect to do this before going to sleep as you will feel exhausted, you will clear your head and have a good night sleep.
But also good for those who don’t have a friend handy next to them, to speak and help decide what to do. You have all that it takes to decide for yourself.
Build your self esteem up! It’s time to react : BE PROACTIVE!
Your life doesn't just "happen."
Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you.
We all go through pain and stress and distress in Life, so it’s time to pause and think about where we are going. It’s easy to look at other and think...Hooo they are sooo lucky, not like me…they are rich, healthier or they are so blessed...me, i attract problems. (sad face)
Ho hun, how long do you think that you will moan like this. All your fiends know the story that you repeat again and again about your last lover who mistreat you, your parent too strict and this colleague who turn your life in hell… all theses persons who used and abused you...and you said…
Right now, you are not LIVING but SURVIVING...taking every day like a real burden.
Now the following should not be a surprise for you, yes you already know what I’m about to say...but hey, just take it and let’s start with the painful. and let’s be clear.
YOU NEED TO STOP DOING THE SAME MISTAKE
STOP comparing yourself to your neighbors or your frien. You will be disappointed to notice that someone, not far away from you has ALREADY done better than you. Yes look again.
STOP accumulate things. It's just things, replaceable things will NOT bring your happiness back. It will lift you up for a while, but quickly you will need and other expensive thing. Hoarding is not THE competition, just the best way to become a shop addict.
STOP being angry at others... if your neighbor copycat you (like mine), chill out, take is as a compliment. Imitation is the best form of flattery
STOP lying to yourself, alcohol and cigarette are NOT your friends. As you are careful about what you drink and eat, select carefully what you listen and believe
STOP running alone. find some friends, some good one, not the one who comfort you in your daily lamentations. Find a COACH or a MENTOR! Yes, an inspiration, boost yourself up.
Now for the more positive and joyful :
YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED IN YOU TO BE HAPPY AND TRULY PROUD OF YOU!
Love yourself, you are unique valuable and loved, just the you you are deep down inside,
be optimist and dream big; only expect the positive to come. You deserve it. Repeat it everyday and believe it
Be positive and help others without ANY expectation, it will show your real heart.
Laugh a lot, I mean a lot. Laugh alone or WITH others, watch a nice movie,
Be nice, treat yourself like you want other to treat you,
Surprise and pamper yourself, LOVE YOURSELF. It doesn’t need to be expensive it can be simple. Just chill out. Have a meeting with yourself and listen to some relaxing music to meditate, have a break.
SPEAK IT OUT. talk back to your inner critic thought. Speak back to your to yourself with what you want others to tell you. Listen to your POSITIVE inner thoughts ONLY. Kick out the horrible villain who obsede you. Free yourself!
Be indulgent on yourself, a mistake is just ONE only single mistake. No need to be mad at you for life. Forget it. Move on. Life is too short, so LIVE like today is your last day : No regret!
Be confident. Stick to your pant, don’t run away naked every time someone hurt or shocked you. Nothing is more important than keeping your inner PEACE.
Every day, we woke up and start thinking, running and struggling with our daily life, but are you doing what you are suppose to do or doing what you are told to do?
Obviously our thoughts guide us and tell us what to do. Of course we trust in ourselves and believe that we are doing exactly what we are suppose to do. But why are we feeling tired, stressed and overwhelmed. Our inner voice then tell us that we’ve forget to do this and that...we could have manage our day in a better way, focus on our agenda, perfect planning for a perfect day.
But can you honestly say that you are relaxed and satisfied with your life? Using wisely determination, stubbornness or persistence to achieve your goal.
We all do struggle with managing your life but if everything start with a though, how do we manage our thoughts to achieve the result that we truly want.
Stop for one minute to challenge your intrusive thoughts for a flawless ming?
What are you really thinking about? Is it what you’ve planned this morning when you woke up fresh and ready for the day?
Any magical wand on how to reshape your brain to live a life full of happiness.
No it’s all in YOU. You can simply train your spirit to control your mind. Changes which will bring your spotless mind to reshape your brain, so your brain will eventually stop disease to affect your body. All for the positive and wonderful result of feeling content and happy.
Impressive isn’t it? Now...How can you control your mind and thoughts. Theses thoughts who pop into our mind without any permission?
“Cogito ergo sum”by René Descartes meaning "I think, therefore I am".
In short, you can always doubt the certainty of everything, but the very fact that you are doubting is something which cannot be doubted. You are indubitably thinking about something.
Your brain is working and you are processing something.
This is essentially what "I think; therefore I am" means. Whether it’s a right or wrong thought is something I will leave for further posts.
The contrapositive is easier to understand: if I don't exist, then I don't think.
Dead brain can’t think.
If I'm not actually in existence then I wouldn't be able to cogitate on myself and my surroundings. Now how can I control theses thinking?
On solution could be maybe by using the Neuroplasticity to renew your brain?
Our brain is more flexible than we imagine. Every time we learn something, experience something new or practice a skill you physically change your brain. This is called neuroplasticity and it is defined as the brain’s ability to mould and to shape itself in response to thoughts, experiences, emotions and movement.”
As we exercise to keep our body in shape, we must exercise our brain as it will help slow age-related mental decline.
Now let’s play. pull away the limits of our Imagination.